I'm sick and tired of my girlfriend's lame excuses to avoid having sex

Posted by Reinaldo Massengill on Saturday, May 18, 2024

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M sick and tired of having a non-existent sex life.

On a good week, my girlfriend and I only make love three to four times a week.

On a bad week, we do it once or twice.

I’m 27 and she’s 26. My ideal would be to have sex at least once a day.

My girlfriend is always making lame excuses to avoid having sex with me and it’s really starting to get me down.

She insists that I’m the one with the problem, not her, but I’ve never had so little passion in my life.

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She knows that no sex at all is not an option. But I don’t seem to be able to increase her libido.

What can I do to make her want more sex?

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DEIDRE SAYS: First of all, you should get a sense of perspective.

What constitutes a high sex drive, a low sex drive or even a normal one is subjective.

But most people would argue that having sex three to four times a week doesn’t fit in to the “non-existent” category.

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Focus on the quality, not the quantity of sex you are having.

You should try to find a compromise that works for both of you.

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